I have a self visualized concept about life. A dear friend of mine once mentioned to me a theory about concentric circles in a passing by manner but the concept really stuck to my mind and I pondered on it long enough to drive results out of it and form my own version or an extended version if you would like to call it that. Since the concept is actually based on concentric circles and is applicable to life I call it the “circles of life” theory. It’s quite simple to understand the concept but it is fairly difficult to actually implement it. To be honest everything worthy of something comes with a cost, you cannot expect to gain something of value without making an effort.
The concept goes like this. Every person as an individual is standing in a circle in his/her life. That very person, you, is at the center of this circle. As life moves along and you start living your limited quota in this world more and more concentric circles start appearing around you while all the time you are standing at the center of the circle. Till here it is all on auto mode, life is doing it for you but once the circles start appearing it is time for you to act. These circles are meant for prioritizing people and things in your life, well mostly people but you can also apply it to other things in your life. The organizing structure is such that people who are close to you, or whom you value the most in your life are to be placed in the circle closest to you. Remember that no one is allowed to enter the circle you are in. Placing people in a particular circle represents their importance in your life, how does this help? Well in more ways than you can imagine. See during the entire length of our life we come across several people all of whom connect to us in different ways. In a manner of thinking your life is not entirely yours, it is a mix of different people who chipped in to your life for maybe a split second but left a few of their colors in your picture. This is how life works; no matter how hard you try you cannot skip this system.
Placing individuals in their respective circles creates two main advantages. Firstly you know now (ideally) how much attention and time other people in your life deserve. It is a self created check, are you spending way too much time and wasting your efforts on a person who in reality is not even concerned about you? Place him in a circle far from you, while a loved one your parents for instance should be in the closest circle. This mind divide actually enables a person to better his relations with those around us. A second and much more valuable aspect of this concept is that it draws boundaries. Limits are very important in life, be it the speed limit on a highway or the limit to which you allow an office colleague to interfere with your work. Life comes with relations and each relation has a limit, and as the saying goes “everything looks good within its limit”. Often it happens that we or the people around us forget to observe these limits, not intentionally in fact more than often in good will do others commit this mistake but it does happen. At first this might not look like a big deal to us, but with the passage of time you will start realizing the problems within it. Especially in relations with others, limits play a vital role and it does dictate how the relation will shape up. Respect, friendliness, anger etc are all observed on the basis of the set limit of that relation. The circles act as a constant reminder for you to keep the people around you, the relations around you within their limits.
I have personally experienced this in my life and have also applied it to positive affect. However one cannot argue to the rationality of it, we are but humans. We have our emotions and self pompous egos to deal with, its not a bad thing, we all have it. One last thing, no matter if you apply this concept to your life or not, the circles of life do exist. Once in a lifetime someone will come to cross all levels and stand right there in the center circle, where you never allowed anyone else but this one person. And believe me if you must, that this one person will come to change your life.